Enable

Enable : to give (someone or something) the authority or means to do something. Often times we make excuses and point fingers when something horrible happens to us. The other party involved is villianized. We play the role of poor harmless victim. That's one way to look at but if we take a step back and look at it another way we may be surprised what we discover. As an adult no one can make you do anything you don't want to. Nobody is responsible for your thinking or behavior. With that being said a lot of our situations are of our own creation. We enable certain things to happen by our passive responses. Its pointless to be upset about things you allow. Sometimes we are too nice we are afraid to hurt other peoples feelings etc etc etc . If we continuously accept any and everything some one does without any punitive or corrective action you are becoming a enabler. If constantly forget and over look and make excuses for somebody else mishaps you are an enabler. If you yell curse cry but still open the door for him or her you are a enabler. Its our own responsibility to set standards and rules to abide by in our lives that make us happy. If we constantly allow people to run over us maybe we should stop looking at there behavior and look at our own and what we did or didn't do which make them comfortable behaving the way they do toward us. A PERSON CAN ONLY DO TO YOU WHAT YOU ALLOW OR ENABLE THEM TO.....