Purpose????????

Laying in the floor staring at the ceiling fan turn wondering why things are currently the way that they are and thinking what am I missing where is the lesson that is meant to be learned. We all heard the saying everything happens for a reason, or we should learn a lesson from all we endure. I get that but does struggles and negativity just come with the territory or does it too play a role and have a purpose? Purpose is defined as :the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. 2. have as one's intention or objective. Some people will go to their grave never knowing their purpose. I hope that I am not one of those people. The unanswered question I battle with is how or when does one truly find their purpose for existence? Having tried my hand at many things and had success, how does one decide on which of these things is truly right? Is it a test I need to take or assessment some professional must complete in order to give me an objective? My thought is that by eliminating people and things that serve no purpose to your well being your true purpose may be revealed. Time wasted on people and things that lack an objective can't possibly be beneficial. I know we must take the good with the bad but it should never be all bad at all times in any situation. If you can find no reason as to why something was done or which it exist how can the experience be useful. Just something to think about .....

Enable

Enable : to give (someone or something) the authority or means to do something. Often times we make excuses and point fingers when something horrible happens to us. The other party involved is villianized. We play the role of poor harmless victim. That's one way to look at but if we take a step back and look at it another way we may be surprised what we discover. As an adult no one can make you do anything you don't want to. Nobody is responsible for your thinking or behavior. With that being said a lot of our situations are of our own creation. We enable certain things to happen by our passive responses. Its pointless to be upset about things you allow. Sometimes we are too nice we are afraid to hurt other peoples feelings etc etc etc . If we continuously accept any and everything some one does without any punitive or corrective action you are becoming a enabler. If constantly forget and over look and make excuses for somebody else mishaps you are an enabler. If you yell curse cry but still open the door for him or her you are a enabler. Its our own responsibility to set standards and rules to abide by in our lives that make us happy. If we constantly allow people to run over us maybe we should stop looking at there behavior and look at our own and what we did or didn't do which make them comfortable behaving the way they do toward us. A PERSON CAN ONLY DO TO YOU WHAT YOU ALLOW OR ENABLE THEM TO.....

Communication Pt 1

Communication is defined any act by which one person gives to or receives from another person about that persons needs, desires, perception, knowledge, or affective state. In order for communication to take place there must be a sender, a message and a recipient. We all know communication is vital to the success of any process. By definition it takes action on the part of two parties in order for the process to be effective. But here is where it gets tricky. Freedom of speech allows you to speak as you chose but if the intended recipient is not actively listening, does real communication occur? The message portion of the process is very important. When we behave emotionally instead of objectively some messages are lost in the midst of tears and other common theatrics. I prefer a clear and direct approach. Holding back, sugar coating issues and talking around a situation usually makes the situation worse and more complicated. Say what you mean and mean what you say..........

investment

Invest has several definitions but two in particular stand out for me. One financial one social. Definition 1.to put (money) to use by purchase or expenditure in something offering potential profitable return. Definition 2 to use, give, or devote (time, talent, etc) as for a purpose or to achieve something. Investing is a risky business in general but more especially when its a matter of emotions. Profitable returns are never guaranteed in matters of the heart. When it is business investment its several tried and true systems of practice to study to protect your investment. Who is responsible for protection of emotional investment? We all seen scam artist make off with millions in ponzi schemes. There was a judiciary process for those victim to regain or retain their investment but how does one regain time talent emotions etc? Aggressive investing whether it be financial or personal can be devastating. The old saying goes think before act because investment of time talent and emotions that yeild no returns are a complete,lost money can be made again. Be mindful of who and what you choose to invest in.....

Welp

your constant lack of reciprication has lead to my resignation of  participation
your lack of consitency has awakened my eyes to tons of things tgat wer forgotten

I wonder...

i wonder how much does ones past tend to dictate their future
i wonder how often does effect the things that take place presently
i wonder how things would be if one could let go of the past and see things simply in the moment i wonder.....

Reputation

Reputation we all have one whether it be good or bad it's there. Early on we were taught the importance of reputation. Never do anything embarrassing publicly to tarnish the reputation of your parents for example. As I get older it seems that reputation is less important but can still be used as a deciding factor in some situations. For example ignorance seems to be the norm and nothing is taboo any more so everybody tends to just deal with whatever arises. But in matters of money or love no passes are given. My reputation involves sex drugs violence and gang affiliation. My reputation also has a college degree, volunteers in the community, raises children, and genuinely cares for the well being in my circle. Sadly that last sentence does nothing for me cause the sex drugs and violence take center stage. I wonder if that's y some fail to take me serious .....