Tuesday, October 29, 2013

old school love by lupe

Lupe has a new single titled Old School Love. The hook of this song really made me think. It says "it takes a long time yet happens real fast to realize that your future is someone else's past". Not only is it a dope lyric its real life. There is nothing new under the sun we simply repeat the cycle with our own lil changes. With being said its necessary to play close attention to as well as appreciate the struggles and sacrifices made by those who proceeded us. One day we will be elders repeating the same things that tye elders said to us. Its up to us to make sure our instructions and examples we set are worth repeating. ..

Nobody knows

Nobody knows the insecurity that you battle with in the dark. Nobody knows the tears of frustration you surpress on a daily basis. Nobody knows that the load you carry is far too much for you. Nobody knows that you dont feel they will support you the way you do for them. Nobody knows the struggles of another, even if they share some they will never share it all.Nobody knows everything about anyone person. The old saying do unto others as you would have them do unto you really doesnt seem to be common practice these days. When normal outlets no longer work and keeping so much pinned up will make you explode. Giving up is not an option cause it may me be all bad today but nobody knows what tomorrow may bring...

Monday, October 28, 2013

Serenity Prayer

The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen. --Reinhold Niebuhr

Douuble Standards...

We all use them to our benefit when we can. We publicly denounce them but in private matters they're our friend. We justify them away as long we are not their victim. Interestingly enough I have and surely will again at some point be guilty of using a double standard to benefit myself. I had a interesting discussion on this topic today. Its crazy how it usually takes somebody else to point it out to us when we do it because we become so accustom to doing it. Double standards: a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups. The key word is unfairly. We all say we want equality but as long as certain principles don't apply the same for certain people or groups equality is merely a thought. This can be applied in any social setting you can think of and if one party is given privelage over another it doesn't normally go over well. How can something so elementary be so complex? How can two parties do the same thing but for one its acceptable for the other its terrible? Sounds crazy huh, always remember everything we do in life is a choice or a decision you have an option as whether you want to allow double standards to exist no use in complaining about them if we choose to allow them...

Purpose????????

Laying in the floor staring at the ceiling fan turn wondering why things are currently the way that they are and thinking what am I missing where is the lesson that is meant to be learned. We all heard the saying everything happens for a reason, or we should learn a lesson from all we endure. I get that but does struggles and negativity just come with the territory or does it too play a role and have a purpose? Purpose is defined as :the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. 2. have as one's intention or objective. Some people will go to their grave never knowing their purpose. I hope that I am not one of those people. The unanswered question I battle with is how or when does one truly find their purpose for existence? Having tried my hand at many things and had success, how does one decide on which of these things is truly right? Is it a test I need to take or assessment some professional must complete in order to give me an objective? My thought is that by eliminating people and things that serve no purpose to your well being your true purpose may be revealed. Time wasted on people and things that lack an objective can't possibly be beneficial. I know we must take the good with the bad but it should never be all bad at all times in any situation. If you can find no reason as to why something was done or which it exist how can the experience be useful. Just something to think about .....

Friday, October 18, 2013

Enable

Enable : to give (someone or something) the authority or means to do something. Often times we make excuses and point fingers when something horrible happens to us. The other party involved is villianized. We play the role of poor harmless victim. That's one way to look at but if we take a step back and look at it another way we may be surprised what we discover. As an adult no one can make you do anything you don't want to. Nobody is responsible for your thinking or behavior. With that being said a lot of our situations are of our own creation. We enable certain things to happen by our passive responses. Its pointless to be upset about things you allow. Sometimes we are too nice we are afraid to hurt other peoples feelings etc etc etc . If we continuously accept any and everything some one does without any punitive or corrective action you are becoming a enabler. If constantly forget and over look and make excuses for somebody else mishaps you are an enabler. If you yell curse cry but still open the door for him or her you are a enabler. Its our own responsibility to set standards and rules to abide by in our lives that make us happy. If we constantly allow people to run over us maybe we should stop looking at there behavior and look at our own and what we did or didn't do which make them comfortable behaving the way they do toward us. A PERSON CAN ONLY DO TO YOU WHAT YOU ALLOW OR ENABLE THEM TO.....

Communication Pt 1

Communication is defined any act by which one person gives to or receives from another person about that persons needs, desires, perception, knowledge, or affective state. In order for communication to take place there must be a sender, a message and a recipient. We all know communication is vital to the success of any process. By definition it takes action on the part of two parties in order for the process to be effective. But here is where it gets tricky. Freedom of speech allows you to speak as you chose but if the intended recipient is not actively listening, does real communication occur? The message portion of the process is very important. When we behave emotionally instead of objectively some messages are lost in the midst of tears and other common theatrics. I prefer a clear and direct approach. Holding back, sugar coating issues and talking around a situation usually makes the situation worse and more complicated. Say what you mean and mean what you say..........

Monday, October 14, 2013

investment

Invest has several definitions but two in particular stand out for me. One financial one social. Definition 1.to put (money) to use by purchase or expenditure in something offering potential profitable return. Definition 2 to use, give, or devote (time, talent, etc) as for a purpose or to achieve something. Investing is a risky business in general but more especially when its a matter of emotions. Profitable returns are never guaranteed in matters of the heart. When it is business investment its several tried and true systems of practice to study to protect your investment. Who is responsible for protection of emotional investment? We all seen scam artist make off with millions in ponzi schemes. There was a judiciary process for those victim to regain or retain their investment but how does one regain time talent emotions etc? Aggressive investing whether it be financial or personal can be devastating. The old saying goes think before act because investment of time talent and emotions that yeild no returns are a complete,lost money can be made again. Be mindful of who and what you choose to invest in.....